Group Mindfulness and Compassion Retreats with Annik and Olaf

Being a loner I was apprehensive about doing a group mindfulness retreat. But I am dedicated to Rob Nairn’s Psychology of Insight Training course and the group mindfulness was presented as a continuation of this work. As it most decidedly is – even if not directly intended to be so!

We were given enough theory to put the exercises we did in context. However, the theory did not prepare me for the profound discoveries I made about how I (dysfunctionally) function in groups. I was able to accept, explore and experience my new discoveries because I felt totally safe. Annik held the space with utter kindness, humility and non-judgement enabling us to share deep and difficult, and for me, previously never shared, experiences. In a few days, I gained a huge amount of compassionate insight into my group patterns and started on the path of being able to mindfully change how I function in groups. I understood that the group is a reflection of its members and the members each contain elements of the group. This was an important step in growing my understanding and compassion for others and understanding the interconnectedness of everything.

The compassion retreat, that followed, developed the learnings of the group mindfulness retreat. Again, I was hesitant about attending a compassion retreat as I’m not a “touchy feely” person. I also suspected I knew it all, anyhow. Well I didn’t and still don’t and probably never will (and that is perfect) but I developed my ability to hold myself in kindness and to really tune into other people while maintaining my own integrity. The visualisation practices presented me with my own incredible potential for good, that I have never really trusted or appreciated.

Compassion Retreat Group

Both retreats helped me deepen my self-awareness. Knowing, at deep levels, how I feel, brings the opportunity to make wise choices for myself and how I relate to others. I am further along the path of Not being at the mercy of subterranean, unacknowledged and merciless energies as a result of these two retreats and Rob’s course. The retreats, following on the first year of the Psychology of Insight Training course, have presented me with a Christmas stocking full of the most valuable gifts in the world that I can play with forever and that will never wear out, or break – as long as I keep practising.

Suddenly life is so much more fun.

Maxine Fine

135ml

We had a most wonderful Christmas miracle this year. After months of heat and drought, we were gifted 135 ml of rain! It came pouring down in a day - smashing all our streams wide open, quenching the ground's thirst and restoring balance to our land.

With dams full, streams flowing, happy animals and humans, all that was left to do was celebrate the festivities. We had an amazing feast of nut roast and lots of tasty veggies, followed by a display of various cakes baked at TRC & brought in by some of our generous retreatants.

We shared a table together and as our bellies filled, we connected further and further. Finding common humanity at a table of people from all walks of life is something that takes place every weekend at TRC. It's truly wonderful, and we do hope that in time, all of you reading this, will get to experience this with us. And on this note, we wish you all a wonderful New Year celebration - may all your greatest aspirations come to fruition in the years to come.

With love,
Tara Rokpa Centre

Here you can see a happy frog bouncing around at TRC during the rain, which reminds of the following quote by Chamgon Kentin Tai Situ Rinpoche:

"Every sentient being is equal to the Buddha"

Seek the Truth, Seek the Truth, and Don’t Ever Forget to Seek the Truth.

This being human thing; it’s very strange. There is such a vast array of ways to do it. Some may do it in such a way that their ancestors have, and some may choose to forge a new path in search of what is meaningful, some may choose to live the same way that those who are around them do, and others may choose otherwise. One way I know, is the way I have chosen: seek the truth, seek the truth, and don’t ever forget to seek the truth.

It has proven challenging at times, and sometimes it seems like it’s a dead-end road, but often times, just when you think it’s the end, you see there’s a corner to turn. And so, turn after turn, an entire journey has unfolded, and in this way, I am experiencing what it is, to be a human being.

One would assume that such a rigorous path could be quite an isolated one, and although it may feel that way at times, it is in fact, quite a connection-infused journey. Truth cannot exist in isolation, after all, truth is truth, and what I may stumble upon has got to be discoverable by others for it to really be true. And so, I have been fortunate enough, to unite with many who share what I hold in my heart: seek the truth, seek the truth, and don’t ever forget to seek the truth.

Every now and then, those that seek the truth, find it. For many of us, this involves the idea of retreat - retreating from day-to-day activity to softly fall within. Allowing ourselves to land amidst infinite information and cultivating concentration to explore the frontiers of the mind. 

This is the work we do here. This is why we gather. This is why we retreat.

By Jami Selikow

Search The Darkness
By Rumi 

Search the Darkness

Sit with your friends; don't go back to sleep.
Don't sink like a fish to the bottom of the sea.

Surge like an ocean,
don't scatter yourself like a storm.

Life's waters flow from darkness.
Search the darkness, don't run from it.

Night travelers are full of light,
and you are, too; don't leave this companionship

Be a wakeful candle in a golden dish,
don't slip into the dirk like quicksilver.

The moon appears for night travelers,
be watchful when the moon is full.

Volunteers

TRC is a special place. Where else in this fast-paced world do you find 280hectares of land run solely by volunteers? It’s not an impossible thing to find, but it’s definitely a rarity. 

This 280 hectares of land, where healing, environmental work, community support and dharma practice takes place, is strongly supported by the hard work of those who have felt a tug-of-the-heart to be here. 

At present, the centre is run by Pippa Cope – a mighty strong woman who has managed to lay the foundations for TRC. She has spent 13 years turning this land from a farm into a retreat space. She is beautifully compassionate and helpful towards the individuals of the informal settlement, and whenever something needs to be done, they always go to Pippa first. She stays here in deep dedication to Akong Rinpoche and serves as an inspiration to us all. 

Then there are the two permaculture enthusiasts – Coen & Megan - who have managed to get the environmental wing up and running. With their 3 year dedication to the centre, they have managed to start Tikologo which has added many beneficial elements to the landscape, such as: swales, a chicken coop, an orchard, a nursery and zone 1 garden that has truly enriched the previously bare soil. Their tireless work is enhancing the land and their water harvesting focus will aid the centre in many years to come. 

Alan, stays at the retreat centre. He is our Dharma Holder and serves as retreat support when people choose to come and spend some time in the serenity of Tara's Vally on personal retreat. He is or guiding light in this valley and every one who passes through here, especially the long-term volunteers, are grateful for his presence. We sometimes even joke that we should all wear bracelets that have WWAD printed on them...so that whenever we are in doubt we could look down and think 'What Would Alan Do?'

I am working in the office here – it’s not exactly a position that people are queuing up to fill but it’s kept me here, in this special place. I have learned more than I ever could have anticipated and I wouldn’t trade this experience for anything in the world. In fact, it has been so tremendously beautiful, that my TRC experience could serve as an offering. 

November hasn’t brought much rain but it has brought two new volunteers. First to arrive was Chesley – our smart cookie from Harvard. Chesley has a wonderfully sunny disposition and has completed her Biology degree and is enjoying her traveling fellowship from Harvard. After two years that has been set aside to see the world, she is hoping to study medicine. She has been swimming in waterfalls and river eyes and enjoying quiet evenings watering the TRC gardens. 

Then we have our nomad – Alex – whose travel route has been: London, Poland, Mozambique, and now, TRC. She is a great character who has a beautiful spiritual journey both behind and ahead of her. 

 

So, now that you know a bit about the team, here is what we got up to yesterday:

We packed the car with dogs, people and sandwiches and headed off to the Marico Oog. We arrived and set up an umbrella where we sat together and ate sandwiches and naartjies, and then we swam. And boy, did we swim! We jumped from rickety diving boards, and swam together through tunnels. Then, we made a team effort to swim over the actual eye. We swam through the fence and then made it to The Eye. 

The water was a deep, rich blue and the beams of light converged at the bottom, making for a spectacular sight. We sat on top of barrels that rest in the water, holding up a barge, and we chatted, meditated, sang and had fun playing ‘barrel wars’. 

Then, after a long day in the sun we headed home – to TRC – the place where all of our hearts rest each night. Our home where, together, we learn & grow, and at the same time, we help others, because TRC holds space for so many people who pass through here, providing much needed healing and rest. So, with that in mind and after a beautiful day together, we all closed our eyes with a soft smile on our faces, thankful for our time here.

Jami Selikow

Doe Oog in Groot Marico

Stay Positive

Almost everything we can read, see and think about anything in the world is an illusion, most especially in the "political" world. There is no substance to it. Remember impermanence of all things, even our sun will one day die. Focus on your own heart. This means ground yourself in caring for others, for all living beings, ground yourself in your own goodness, your peacefulness, your calm inner knowing that you are fortunate to be alive, that you are loved and your presence in this world is like a precious treasure. Appreciate small things. Walk on the grass, lean against a tree, watch birds, feel the sun's warmth, or rainfall on your skin, or watch the snowfall. Realise how mother Earth supports us all with vast generosity. Notice how bees work for the whole hive, for all of nature, offering sweetness, without expecting anything in return.
Enjoy this moment, now. Sing. Laugh. Keep positive.

Love,
Khareen Pech

Heat & Rain

The Heat came wafting through the land and decided to settle in our precious Valley. We don’t blame it, it’s really beautiful here, but we wouldn’t mind if he was simply a passing guest. Maybe a day or two, but more than that…well, we’re just not that much of a gracious host. 

River Swims

Waterfall Swims With New Friends From Happy Toes

We did do our best to keep him happy – we continued to work but made sure to travel to water each day for a little swim, we’re sure he enjoyed watching that. We also put pitchers of iced lemon and mint water from the garden on our lunch table, he must have really loved that. And at night, we all slept on top of our bedding, perhaps that made him giggle. 

When beautiful clouds began to grow in the sky, we rejoiced at the hint of Rain. But she passed over. Maybe Rain and Heat had a bit of a quarrel, we’re not sure – we don’t like to get involved in drama. So, we simply carry on, doing what we do – running this beautiful space that is Tara Rokpa Centre. 

Thirsty Orchard

Thirsty Dogs

We make sure all the buildings are up to scratch – cleaning the bedding and adding small touches that welcome our guests. We continue to nurture our gardens – ensuring the environment is looked after while at the same time providing organic food for our guests. We feed all the animals – because they’re adorable and we love them. 

And in the liminal spaces, we hold hope in heart that Heat and Rain resolve their conflict and merge once more in the sacred space of our Valley.  

Jami Selikow